Chapter 31: Regarding Affection Towards
Children & Compassion Towards Orphans
Hadith 1: It is in
Sahih Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Umm-ul-Mo’mineen A’isha رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہا
that a Bedouin said to the Prophet صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
‘You (people) kiss children (affectionately)
and we do not do this.’ Huzoor صلَّی اللہ
تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
said, ‘What can I do if Allah has removed
mercy (compassion) from your heart.’
Hadith 2: It is in
Sahih Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of A’isha رضی
اللہ تعالٰی عنہا
says that a woman came to me with her two daughters
and then requested for something. I did not have anything in my possession
except one date. I gave that away to her. The woman split the date and shared
it between her daughters, and she remained without eating. After she had left,
Huzoor صلَّی
اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم arrived (and) I mentioned this incident to
Huzoor صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم , who said, ‘That person whom Allah has blessed with daughters,
and he is compassionate towards them, then they shall be a barrier for him from
the fire of hell’.
Hadith 3: Imam Ahmed
and Muslim reported on the authority of A’isha رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہا says, ‘A poor woman came to me with her two daughters and I gave
her three dates. She gave one each to her daughters and was about to put one
into her mouth, when her daughters asked her for it. She broke it into two
pieces and shared it between them. When I mentioned this to Huzoor صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
, He صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘Allah ta’aala has made Jannat Waajib
upon her, and He has granted her salvation from hell-fire’.
Hadith 4: It is
reported in Sahih Muslim from Anas رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said,
‘That person in whose guardianship two daughters (i.e. two girls) remain until
they reach puberty, then such a person will come forth on the day of Qiyaamah
in such a condition that him and I will be very close to one another.’ Then
Huzoor صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم joined both his fingers to show this
closeness.
Hadith 5: It is in
Sharhus Sunnah from ibn Ab’bas رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہما that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said,
‘Almighty Allah will definitely make Jannat waajib (compulsory) upon a person
who shares his food and drink with an orphan, except if he committed such a
(grave) sin, which cannot be forgiven. Allah will make Jannat Waajib upon a
person who takes care of three daughters or the same amount of sisters and teaches
them good character and is compassionate towards them, until such time that,
they become self-sufficient (i.e. until such time that they do not need him to
take care of them any longer). Someone (then) said, ‘Ya Rasool’Allah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم ! If it is two’ (i.e. is the reward the same in taking care of two
daughters or sisters?) He
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘For
two’ (i.e. the same rewards is in this case as well). If the people would have
asked regarding one, then Huzoor
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم would have
mentioned the same about that as well. He صلَّی اللہ
تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
(then said) ‘for him, whose ‘Karimatain’ Allah has
taken away, Jannat is compulsory.’ It was asked, ‘What is Karimatain’. He صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said ‘His eyes’.
Hadith 6: Abu Dawud
reported on the authority of Auf bin Maalik Ashja’i رضی
اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘I and that lady, whose cheek is discoloured,
will be in Jannat like this.’ In other words just as the middle and the index
(Kalima) fingers are close to each other. This refers to a woman of high
stature and beauty who became widowed and then spent her life taking care of
orphans until such time that they separate (i.e. either they grow up or they
pass away)’.
Hadith 7: Imam
Ahmed, Haakim and Ibn Majah reported from Suraqa bin Maalik رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Nabi Kareem صلَّی
اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
said, ‘Should I not inform you of the
greatest Sadqa? It is to take care of your daughter who has returned to you[1]’.
Hadith 8: Abu Dawud
reported from Ibn Ab’bas رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
said, ‘That person who has a daughter and
refrains from being cruel towards her and from causing her any insult and he does
not give preference to his male children over her; Allah will enter him into
Holy Paradise (Jannat)’.
Hadith 9: Tirmizi
reported from Jaabir bin Samurah رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘For
a person to teach his children good manners are better than him giving One Sa’[2].
Hadith 10: Tirmizi
and Baihaqi have reported on the authority of Ayub bin Moosa who reported from
his father, from his grandfather that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘A father can not give a gift better
than good manners to his children’.
Hadith 11: Tirmizi
and Haakim have reported on the authority of Amr bin Sa’eed inbil A’as رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘There is no greater gift from a father
to his children than him teaching them good manners.’
Hadith 12: Ibn Majah
reports from Anas رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that
Rasoolullah صلَّی
اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘Respect your children and teach them
good manners’.
Hadith 13: Ibn ul
Najaar reported from Abu Hurairah رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said,
‘Upon the father, is also the rights of the children, just as upon children is
the right of the father’.
Hadith 14: Tabrani
reported from Ibn Ab’bas رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہما that Rasoolullah
صلَّی
اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘Give to your children equally’. If I
had to give excellence (preference) to anyone, I would have given this
preference to girls (daughters)’.
Hadith 15: Tabrani
reported on the authority of Nu’man bin Basheer رضی
اللہ تعالٰی عنہما that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘Be just with your children, when
giving them gifts, just as you desire that all of them should be just in
kindness and compassionate towards you’.
Hadith 16: Ibn Najaar
reported from Nu’man bin Basheer رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہما that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ
وسلَّم said,
‘Allah loves for you to be just between your children, even to the extent of
kissing them’.
Hadith 17: It is in
Sahih Bukhari from Sahl bin Sa’ad رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah
صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said,
‘That person who maintains an orphan, be he of that house or of another
(house), both him and I shall be in Jannat like this’. The Prophet صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم gestured by way of joining his middle and index
(Kalima) finger and only left a small space between both the fingers.
Hadith 18: Ibn Majah
reported on the authority of Abu Hurairah رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ
وسلَّم said,
‘The best house amongst Muslims, is that house in which there is an orphan who
is treated with kindness, and the worst house among Muslims is that house in
which there is an orphan who is treated with cruelty’.
Hadith 19: Imam Ahmed
and Tirmizi have reported on the authority of Abu Umaama رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Rasoolullah صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ
واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘The person who runs his hand over the
head of an orphan solely for the pleasure of Allah. Then he shall be awarded
with good deeds equivalent to every single strand of hair that his hand passed
over. That person who is kind towards an orphan boy or an orphan girl, him and
I will be in Jannat like this (he صلَّی اللہ
تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
joined both his fingers and said this).’
Hadith 20: Imam Ahmed
reported on the authority of Abu Hurairah رضی اللہ
تعالٰی عنہ that a person complained about the hardness of his heart, (so)
Nabi Kareem صلَّی
اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘Run your hand over the head of an orphan
and feed a needy person’.
Hadith 21: Tabrani
reported in Awsat on the authority of Abu Hurairah رضی
اللہ تعالٰی عنہ that Huzoor صلَّی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم said, ‘If a boy is an
orphan, then when passing your hand over his head, run your hand towards the
front (i.e. back to front). If the child has a father, then when passing your hand
over his head, run the hand towards the neck (nape, i.e. front to back)’.
[1]
This refers to the situation, where a female returned to her
father’s home because her
husband
has passed away or he has given her Talaaq.
[2] One Sa’ is equivalent to two handfuls in weight equal to about 3
Kg.
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